Life Observed (Part 3)

1. Have you sat down with certain people and while listening to them talk, you ask yourself, “Do I need to know this?” or “Do I care enough to be invested in whatever they are telling me?” or is it just me?

2. Maturity is everything.

3. There are no stupid people. Only people who say and do stupid things. But I’m taking this statement back because there are dumb people. Argue with me on this.

4. Common sense is not that common.

5. If a joke is offensive, then it is not a joke, to begin with. Know the difference between a joke and disrespect.

6. Silence is golden. I remembered seeing this on my school wall. I did not understand its depth and value then, but I do now.

7. Knowledge is power.

8. Been appreciating the beauty of 80’s music. Old is definitely gold.

9. Often people are very much aware of their flaws so, quit pointing them out to them. Also, embrace them. Our flaws are beautiful too. It is what makes us who we are.

10. You will not understand the importance of personal space and alone time until you reach a certain age or at a certain point in your life.

11. Meeting new people and socializing are fun and equally exhausting.

12. I can balance my entire body with only one leg. Found out this during a barbecue party. I should have timed myself.

13. Why can’t things be simple? Why is the need to lie? Being straightforward and honest is not just a good trait to have but it is bloody damn attractive.

14. But know the difference between being honest and being plain rude.

15. It takes the right kind of person to enjoy the music you listen to.

16. People who know me know how awkward of a person I am, and you know what, I love that part of me.

17. Low-key enjoy ageing or getting old.

18. Comfort: Being able to sit with someone in silence, being able to talk about everything, anything, and nothing with, being able to talk or have conversations for hours or from night till morning, being able to lay beside someone and fall asleep, being able to be completely yourself and them being completely themselves with you.

19. Not everyone will be on the same wavelength as you, match your vibes or get your mind. If you ever find someone who does, hold on to them because, trust me, it is very rare to find.

20. It’s the eyes. It has always been the eyes.

21. Healthy work culture is crucial. Also, I don’t get why people would think it is okay to call me on my off days?!

22. Intimacy is beautiful but rare.

23. It’s weird but I have a love-and-hate relationship with sarees.

24. Life is good when you have ice-cream for breakfast.

25. Went to AR Rahman’s concert and fell in love with Hariharan.

26. Some will be happy with your growth. Some wouldn’t.

27. NO means NO! Literally.

28. “Self-awareness isn’t a golden ticket to happiness. If anything, the more we learn about ourselves, the farther we may find ourselves from the rest of the world. When we have deeper understanding of ourselves and begin to pave our own road, there won’t be any traffic, but we also won’t have much company. That’s often the price of walking to the beat of our own drum: loneliness.” – Humble the Poet

29. Gemini and Sagittarius are sister signs, so they mirror a lot to each other, but they are different in so many ways. If you are wondering, I’m a Sagittarius by the way.

30. My mum used to say that one way to know you have found the one is that no matter how different you are when you look at that person, you will see yourself in them. They will remind you of you. I used to think it was bullshit till I started seeing it.

31. The symbol Yin and Yang resonate with me a lot, like the symbol, I’m a balance.

32. "The key to a good life is not giving a fuck about more; it's giving a fuck about less; giving a fuck about only what is true and immediate and important." – Mark Manson

33. I’m an introvert or as my friend would call me, a selective introvert.

34. Solitude can be rewarding but also dangerous. It can be addictive.

35. People who make good coffee needs to be treasured.

36. “What is the one thing you are proud of yourself for?” A girl with the same name as I asked. I did not have an answer then, but it got me to think. I can quickly tell you what my friends and family would say but I do not have an answer myself. That’s because I’m the most critical of myself. I’ve set my bar too high and even if I did manage to achieve it, I would still feel that it is not enough and that I’ll never be satisfied.

37. This brings me to my next point. I think a lot. Especially when I’m alone. For example, when I’m driving. I used to call it overthinking back then but now, I called it self-reflection. I’ve been doing this every day. By end of the day, I will self-reflect on all the things I have said and done on that day. But bear in mind, this is not something easy to do and it’s exhausting. Because you are technically sitting down with yourself and the darkness that surrounds it (darkness is beautiful, by the way). Conversation with yourself about why you did what you did, or said what you said, how to do better, and how to change is very important. It helps you to grow as an individual. An individual you like hanging out with. And I’m all about growth.

38. One of my riders asked me if God ever comes down and wants to grant one wish, what would that wish be? We all know this will never happen but let’s entertain that idea a bit. My answer was peace. I hope that the path I’m taking would eventually lead me there but as for now, I’m just going wherever life takes me.

39. I enjoy solo, long drives. It’s therapeutic.

40. Is marriage ideally what people want in the end? It is okay if that is what you want but it should also be okay if you do not want it. I met this beautiful, bold, witty woman who chose not to want marriage. We talked a bit about this, and I have to say it’s very empowering and inspiring. Because it should be a choice. Your choice. And no one else.

41. There’s a difference between you growing up with a broken family and the family that isn’t. Acceptance and love are not something you are used to. And most of the time, you will feel less deserving of it.

42. A little girl taught me that there is a difference between humans and people.

43. Everyone you meet has a story to be told. Listening will make you understand them better and get why they are the way they are. Behind each eye, there are pain and sorrow hidden. If you look closely, you can see them.

44. Some people are like therapy. Some are hell.

45. “Losing people is hard, but losing ourselves while trying to keep others happy is much more expensive. We can’t please everyone, but we can stay true to ourselves. There’s no point in having everyone like us if we don’t like ourselves. Not everything we lose is a loss; often, losing something makes room for us to recognize who and what we really value in life.” – Humble the Poet

To be continued…